We've been together for 14 years and married for 12. You're jealous and HATE anyone who's life is happier, more loved filled and makes you feel bad about your own life. You hated Jana when they were married for those 5 miserably forced years. Now that she's on yet another divorce, she makes your loveless life seem not as bad. Since you refuse therapy, whatever helps you get through life. Talk about scrapping the bottom of the barrel for friends.