I waited 18 years for my ex to change...he just got worse. The abuse, the porn, the lies and the cheating. He truly thought I would never leave him even when he held my children hostage with a ransom. The ransoms was that I go back to him. I couldn't love him anymore because he doesn't love himself. I left and his world came crashing down. He is now a miserable, lonely man that has no heart or soul and until he seeks help-he will die a lonely man.