It's not a contest. Emotional pain is pain - period. Looking at it hurts like hell. Living with it hurts like hell. Setting out on a quest to find better people to share your life with, makes you well.
I just want you to know that I still love you with all my heart, and even though we don't talk anymore, I still think of you every single day. I miss you and still want you back but I know you're with him and I have to respect that.