I'm still a "forgiver", I'm just not codependent anymore. I've taken the time and energy to understand that there is a difference between forgiving, versus living in denial of the fact that some people are just broken or toxic.
I grew up on Disney movies. Princesses and dragons and the prince that always saves them.When I was little I thought Cinderella really did live in the castle at Disney World. Hopelessly I believe everyone can still have their own fairytale.
You don't learn valuable life skills from avoiding life but rather showing up for life everyday ready to take life on with all its challenges and vital life lessons. That's what makes a warrior with the battle scars to prove it.