Freedom and love go together. Love is not a reaction. If I love you because you love me, that is mere trade, a thing to be bought in the market; it is not love. To love is not to ask anything in return, not even to feel that you are giving something and it is only such love that can know freedom. — Jiddu Krishnamurti
So many people think if it’s love, then everything should flow smoothly – no hiccups. But even the best of relationships require putting in effort – making love a daily conscious habit. John Gottman wrote about the 5 to 1 ratio of nice to nasty. Meaning? For every 1 challenging time (conflict) you need to have 5 loving gestures. You need to put in the effort of what he calls “repair.” Both people have to keep putting something into the relationship – for it to stay thriving.
Reposting @reneeslansky: Dear men ... never stop pursuing us , even after you have us . Dear women...never stop putting in the effort to woo your man even after you already have his heart . Let's continue to date the person we love even when we are already in a comitted relationship or marriage with them. Why would we stop doing thr veru things that have us what we wanted ? #dateforlife