Narcissists have secret lives. They lie effortlessly. They are two faced–appearing with a perfect public image that most people believe. In the shadows, when no one is looking, they do tremendous damage to family members, including their children.
They will accuse you of doing all the things that in fact, they have done to you. Blame is huge for them. They think that since they always blame others for their behavior, that you in turn blame them for every nasty thing they've done to you