Here’s the Secret Phrase to Turn Your Kid Into an Amazing Student -- "You worked really hard". Source 93892 about smarts vs effort, fixed mindset vs growth mindset and how focusing on kids being "smart" actually sets them up for failure.
I thought I had motherhood figured out. and then I had kids. This is the biggest mistake I've made as a mom, and you might be making it too - repeating yourself to the point you have taught your kids they don't have to listen to you!