Growing up with a Narcissist means it's all about the outer image of a perfect family/ perfect parent. What goes on behind closed doors is not that at all. Often fear tactics are used to "control" and keep the "truth" from being told.
Q: How can I piss off my narcissist without hell raining down on me in the process? Part 1 A: There are only two ways to consistently piss off your narcissist so that you make their lives as miserable as they’ve made yours: IGNORE THEM.
Children of Narcissistic parents are perfect sources of supply. They are no better thought of, they come in handy when supply is scarce and just like everyone in close proximity to the Narcissist, they are idealized, manipulated and stonewalled when.