Note to self: Life is far too precious and far too short for me to hide away with fear and insecurity and self-protection. There is a better way, even if to live that 'better way', I need a daily reminder.
It is life! We learn from the past but we cannot stay in it or we will never move forward! Let it go and move on. do not punish your children for your childish anger that your mommy and daddy split up for valid reasons; get over it!